Shake It Up

I’ve had a major shake-up in my life this week. This will mean a big change in an important part of my life. I’m still feeling the emotional upheaval of it.

All of us have lived through tough situations in the past, and each time we’ve survived and evolved. Intellectually, we may know that these circumstances are (relatively) small things in the grand scheme of life, but our hearts think differently. Each time these situations come up, the experience is a little different, because of what we learned the previous time.

During these times, I try not to focus on the turbulence of “now”, but on what I want to feel in the future. What I had was the result of the choices I made in the past, and it was good for a while. What’s coming will be the result of the choices I make now. These times of big change can be times of great opportunity for taking a leap forward.

There are two choices:

• Will I choose to stay stuck in the past, to stew in bad feelings, replay the painful moments of the recent past, and indulge in fantasies of what to say or do to justify the pain I’m in? Yes, for a little while. Everyone needs to process the emotional “hit” of difficult news. The time of the shake-up is great for showing us what we don’t want. I don’t want to feel this way… I don’t want to be treated this way… I don’t want to see this situation... I don’t want to do this anymore… I don’t want to be here anymore.
• But as soon as possible I switch to the second choice: getting clear about what I want in the future. I want this going forward. I want something better.

What do you think? Are you going through a shake-up and deciding what you want in the future? Have you recently lived through one and are seeing positive results coming? Leave a comment!

Until next time, remember… We are all magnificent.